someone outside the relationship; all that
does is create more problems.
There are no guarantees that you or your spouse
will never cheat, but you can do your best to
inoculate yourself against infidelity by plugging
into your marriage.
. Turn toward your partner, not away: If you
have problems within your relationship, then you
fix them within your relationship. You never fix a
problem by turning to someone outside the
relationship; all that does is create more
problems.
. If you want to have a good partner, be a
good partner: You can't control anyone but
yourself. Put 100 percent into your marriage, be
attentive, and you will reap huge rewards in
return.
. Work on your marriage every day, not just
during the bad times: It's hard to do fire
prevention when the house is ablaze. Wake up
each day and ask yourself, "What can I do today
that will make my marriage better?" Make a plan
for how both you and your spouse can contribute
positively to your union and work together to keep
your marriage on track. Don't get complacent.
. Get your marriage out of a rut: Do you and
your spouse do the same routine over and over?
Do you find yourself mindlessly going through
each day? Bored people are boring. Find a
passion, get energized, and make time together to
rediscover the love and commitment you have for
one another. If you've gotten off track, it's never
too late to renegoatiate a new plan that works for
both of you and helps get you to a better place.
. Don't compare your reality to an
unattainable fantasy: It is unfair to compare a
fantasy relationship to one you've been in for
years where there are noses to wipe, bills to pay
and a house to run. That is a ridiculous
comparison. The grass is not always greener on
the other side! Don't forget that there's a
difference between falling in love and being in
love. You can't expect a love that grows to be like
it was on the first date. Also, don't play games in
your head. It's a short step from thought to action.
. Take care of yourself: Eat healthy and exercise
to feel your best and so you can take pride in your
appearance. When you feel good about yourself,
your self-confidence will radiate, and your spouse
will notice. It is also important that your spouse
do the same.
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